Overcoming 4 Hurdles to Fully Integrated Communication - David DeWolf

Overcoming 4 Hurdles to Fully Integrated Communication

A few days ago I received a message from my little sister. She heard I was about to release a new eBook and she wanted to know why I hadn’t told her about it myself.

Just this past weekend Teresa and I went out for a glass of wine after the little kids went to bed. I shared with her some of the different projects that I’m currently working on and why I was so excited about them. It hit me that I had had many of these conversations with coworkers weeks before.

Unfortunately, both of these are par for the course. I’m simply not the communicator at home that I am in the office.

Communication is essential to professional success. All leaders are taught to communicate “7 times in 7 different ways.” Yet, no matter how deliberate we are about communicating our corporate strategy, these best practices don’t always seem to take root in the rest of lives.

If communication is so essential for corporate wellbeing, shouldn’t we assume that it’s at least as critical for optimizing our familial relationships?

As I’ve examined my own motivations, I’ve discovered four obstacles to personal communication that I need to overcome. Hopefully, my sharing them will help you see similar struggles in your life and give you the the motivation to strive to overcome them.

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Disconnect Perception and Reality - David DeWolf

6 Steps to Get Beyond “Perception Is Reality”

Perception is reality. It shapes the way that we interpret other’s actions. Our perception becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

If I perceive that someone is out to get me, I will naturally apply that filter to all of our interactions. I begin to see everything that individual does in light of my own perceived reality. I will interpret a complement as a backhanded insult. I will question their gestures as self-serving and question their motives.

Several years ago my relationship with a client rapidly deteriorated. A quirk in our contract, combined with some external factors that invoked the clause, made our agreement nearly impossible to live with. It placed both companies in a precarious position.

Though a series of unfortunate events our teams failed to address the situation and after months of negotiation the conflict escalated to the top. The client called me with great frustration. She felt we were being unreasonable in our demands and were trying to change the rules mid-stream. I felt as though she was trying to extract every penny from the relationship and was placing us in a situation where we had no chance for success. We both began to interpret every word and action through our own lens.

As you can imagine, the relationship began a rapid, downward, spiral.

The great part of the story is that we were actually able to reestablish rapport and rebuild a strong relationship. It wasn’t without months of hard work, but, we did it. Here’s how we worked together.

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TeamSnap ON MY PHONE - David DeWolf

What’s on My Phone: TeamSnap

Having trouble keeping track of all of the details of your kids’ activities? Do what I did and have the coach sign up for “TeamSnap.”

TeamSnap allows you to manage everything to do with kids’ activities – practices, games, teammates, fees, locations, fields, you name it. While everything I need to attend ultimately goes onto my calendar, having all of the details I might need at my fingertips saves me a ton of time when I’m rushing to get to the game on time.

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Why Your Relationships Are Not Really Yours - David DeWolf

Why Your Relationships Are Not Really Yours

Several years ago I met Sam. He was introduced to me by a friend who had known him through Church and a nonprofit that they both were involved in. Sam came highly recommended as one of the most connected people my friend had ever known.

Sure enough, Sam seemed to know everyone. And this was more than name dropping. It seemed as though he had a good deal of intelligence about the companies and people he was connected with. The breadth and depth of his relationships – especially at the executive level – was nothing short of impressive.

Unfortunately, Sam was also broke. He had recently gone through a near-bankrupt situation and was reeling to support his family. I found it odd that someone with such good connections and apparently solid character had struggled to make a living. What ever happened to “It’s who you know, not what you know”? Wasn’t there a way for Sam to leverage his relationships to find a job – perhaps even in business development?

However, Sam had one fatal flaw. He was more worried about protecting “his assets” than he was about adding value to those people’s lives. He protected his Rolodex with his life and refused to make introductions without a very steep – unreasonable – fee being associated with it.

Sam wasn’t a connector. He was a collector.

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5 Ways to Optimize Your Charitable Giving - David DeWolf

5 Ways to Optimize Your Charitable Giving

The recent success of the ALS #IceBucketChallenge has brought about a renewed focus to charitable giving. Over the past month (from July 29 through August 29), ALS received just over $101 Million dollars in donations compared to just under $3 Million during the same period last year: an undeniable—and unexpected—windfall for the organization.

Supporting philanthropic causes is undoubtedly a good thing, but is it wise for a charitable organization to receive such a huge surge of unexpected capital? Scaling an organization and making good use of newfound capital are difficult challenges for most for-profit organizations. Unfortunately most charitable organizations are not nearly as mature as their for-profit counterparts.

I have no clue whether the ALS was prepared for such a windfall, or whether their management, strategy, and tactics are prepared to handle their newfound success. What I do know is that on the surface this capital could have had a much more significant impact if the generous donors were just as deliberate about their donation as they were about their creative ice bucket ways.

Here are five strategies I’ve put in place over the years to ensure that my philanthropic investments are put to good use.

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3 Ways I Stay Close to Family While Traveling - David DeWolf

3 Ways I Stay Close to Family While Traveling [Graphic]

I travel a lot. Sometimes, it feels like too much, but it’s what I have to do in the career path I have.

It’s important that I come up with ways to stay close to family while traveling. They are often little things that pack a big punch, but they can make all the difference.

In order to stay engaged and not be a totally absent husband and father, I have some techniques to remain close and really try to make up for lost time as much as I can.

Here are three of the ways I stay close to family while traveling:

1. Spend quality time with my family when I’m home.

2. Block time off of my calendar when I’m home.

3. Do extra thoughtful things to make sure they know I’m still thinking of them.

Question: What techniques do you have for staying close to family while you travel? I’d love to hear from you! You can leave a comment by clicking here.

I write about these three methods for staying close to my family, along with a few others, in my earlier post on this topic.

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