6 Steps to Get Beyond “Perception Is Reality”
Perception is reality. It shapes the way that we interpret other’s actions. Our perception becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.
If I perceive that someone is out to get me, I will naturally apply that filter to all of our interactions. I begin to see everything that individual does in light of my own perceived reality. I will interpret a complement as a backhanded insult. I will question their gestures as self-serving and question their motives.
Several years ago my relationship with a client rapidly deteriorated. A quirk in our contract, combined with some external factors that invoked the clause, made our agreement nearly impossible to live with. It placed both companies in a precarious position.
Though a series of unfortunate events our teams failed to address the situation and after months of negotiation the conflict escalated to the top. The client called me with great frustration. She felt we were being unreasonable in our demands and were trying to change the rules mid-stream. I felt as though she was trying to extract every penny from the relationship and was placing us in a situation where we had no chance for success. We both began to interpret every word and action through our own lens.
As you can imagine, the relationship began a rapid, downward, spiral.
The great part of the story is that we were actually able to reestablish rapport and rebuild a strong relationship. It wasn’t without months of hard work, but, we did it. Here’s how we worked together.Learn to live an integrated life with humble confidence. Get it Now