I remember very well the pain I caused my mom as an adolescent as I scoured the boxscores, watched a game, or built legos. It wasn’t the activities that killed her, it was oblivious to anything else going on that suck in her craw. I think she honestly thought I was ignoring her, unfortunately, I literally couldn’t hear.
Now I feel sorry for my poor wife. It’s bad enough that I have been unable to resolve my hearing problem and she is my new victim. She sent me to the Dr. a few years ago and he confirmed that I had the syndrome commonly known as “being male”. Unfortunately for her, this seems to be a hereditary defect. My 7 year old son has displayed similar symptoms and I suspect my 2 year old has the same disease – today he broke out with a rash that others commonly call “potatoes” in his ears.
As with all things in life, I do believe that you can learn something from our disorder. So what is it that this natural skill my boys and I have of “tuning out” can teach us? Focus.
Too many people think that focus is the ability to tune in to something. It’s not. Focus is all about tuning out everything else. If you want to have incredible focus, learn to say ‘no’. Are you struggling to get something important checked off of your todo list? Start saying ‘no’ to the urgent things that seem to always take priority. Is your business struggling to land clients in your target market? Start saying ‘no’ to those that aren’t in it.
Learning to focus is a great skill to have. To put it into action, start practicing the art of saying ‘no’. I guarantee it will pay dividends. You might make your mother a little bit angry, but whatever you’re doing will be done well.